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Die Peruecke at the far end of Berlin's Ku'damm is rapidly becoming one of my favourite haunts. Last week I dropped off two wigs for some TLC and my appointment looked at me in astonishment. "Mein Gott!" she exclaimed. "Is that really you, the beautiful Inesita? I'd never have recognised you" (I was my male self). Those compliments were worth their weight in gold. On Saturday I returned to collect, this time as Inesita. "Grr," my 'date' growled at my coffin-shaped easy-to-apply red nails from AiN-Katy. "You can be so proud of your transformation," her boss exuded. I almost burst into tears -- after 6500 steps in heels I'd ran close to blistering the soles of both feet and had been forced to jump in a cab to make a footfall-free dash from centre of the east, Alexanderplatz to west Berlin. Germany's capital has the coolest people, while the most curious looks I get there are because a girl in heels is such a rarity. That's because it's such a safe haven for those wish simply to 'be.' (Dec. 2024) 

Berlin-Malta

An unintended break from news, the website host folded, while I had to act quickly (again) to retain the domain. Thanks to good friends and professional support, all is back up and running. Last week Inesita enjoyed a memorable TransGender European Council in Malta, the ninth in the series. As a chance to dress, of course she went through multiple costume changes, most of which can be seen here. Ooh, I love being a girl! Then it was on to Berlin for a very successful scrotoplasty (scrotum reduction, age not being my ally), the goal being to ensure there's less to tuck away in the future. (Dec. 2024) 

New Look!

Finally I'm out and about with confidence! Seven kilos trimmed and a waistline that's in shape, regular workouts, and monthly facial rejunivations on the go. New make-up to boot and finally a hairpiece that really suits, courtesy of the very same Berlin-based wigstore that so lovingly identified Inésita's 2008-2011 signature look (see the animated images, right). "The world is losing something" I was kindly told when I mentioned Saturday April 13 was the first time being out in broad daylight as Inésita (if I am not mistaken) since October 2010 and chances today are few and far between. Yet the nerves held firm, as did my heels, long enough for me to rock on to Christin Nichols at the Frannz Klub on the 14th too :-) (Apr. 2024)

Not the (Wo)man I used to be

Many moons ago my masseuse had said to me, "Oh you shalln't be doing Inésita when you're past 40!" Well, 12 years on I'm giving it another go. Only, when I look in the mirror today, I see my mother :'( Suddenly I'm all too aware that I've probably less than half the life I've lived, left. That's a grim thought. So if plastic surgery can give me ten years back, on June 26 I shall turn back time... (Mar. 2024)

Necessity is the Mother of (re)Invention

Inésita has resurfaced. Sort of. But it took a return to the KitKatClub in Berlin – and a strict dress code – to pull out the stops. Luckily, she hadn't forgotten how to apply her makeup! This time she sported a new wig (bought for peanuts via the Facebook marketplace — imagine how many looks she might experiment with in her retirement! Indeed, the next project could be called the 'Make-up' Room, LoL). Facial skin has sagged a little (hidden here by a 'beautify' filter). Scarring from laser-based facial hair remover is worsening over time. But overall, Inésita was elated. Eleven years on! Special thanks to MDNT:45 for the wardrobe! (Dec. 2023)

In (and out of) the Closet (with Wish and AliExpress)
News is well overdue, although Inésita (or rather her wardrobe) remains firmly in the closet (actually the attic). That's more or less a voluntary position, having married my ideal in 2012, and in 2017 and 2019, adding two more girls to our world. They occupy almost every minute of my free time. My penchant to cross-dress has been partly absolved: now (Wish and AliExpress) shopping on my beloved's behalf, the Mrs. being good enough to let me satiate my creative needs by modelling what I've bought her and allowing me to snap away too. The good thing is the wifey doesn't need hours to be feminine (unlike me). For now, however, the 'genie' is back in the bottle. But I still keep myself at 70kg and eyebrows plucked, just in case Inésita needs to get out. (Aug. 2019)

Berlin Decadence
A few weeks ago Inésita's male ego and partner partied all night at Berlin's infamous KitKatClub and boy, what an experience to remember! We went on a tip from a local and certainly played our part in the CarneBall Bizarre. From the moment we stepped inside we were in seventh heaven. Girls and guys of all ages wore BDSM gear, pvc and leather, pussycat uniforms etc... Read more.. (Jan. 2016)

Sea Change
A break from the usual 'Inésita' news. I've spent the last fortnight finishing up the twelfth chapter of a book I am writing about my grandmother's life as a 1920s acrobat. Her short biography appears at the page entitled 'Keith's Theatre.' 'Sea Change' covers the tail end of the 'Roaring 20s' including the period from 1928 to 1931, in which Nanny Tyralla and her sister, Margot's, all-girl vaudeville act toured the UK, US, Cuba and Canada before returning to Germany and heading on to the Netherlands. That all occurred either side of the Wall Street Crash, which along with 'Talkies' and the introduction of radio virtually finished off vaudeville (leaving us everything that is 'Hollywood'). The complete chapter is available to interested readers here. Happy New Year all! Read more.. (Jan. 2015)

Back in Business
“18 months offline thanks to ill-communication then cybersquatters.” So read @InesitaDaSilva’s first Tweet. It’s been a long and sometimes frustrating wait having being ‘robbed’ of the domain following a communication mix-up over the site’s migration to a new server in spring 2013. Initially the site at www.inesitadasilva.com slipped into a so-called ‘redemption period.' But after the former server manager advised Inésita to let it go rather than share the USD 75 fee to repurchase it, someone else snuck in and claimed the address! Read more.. (Oct. 2014)

What Lies Beneath

Astonishingly it's been 15 months since Inésita surfaced. Yet as I get dressed every morning and open her wardrobe door, there are twinges of regret that I am not her more often. With a sigh of resignation, I content myself with lace or string undies made for men. I still love my kink, just I don't have much time for cross-dressing nowadays. What could possibly consign Inésita to the wardrobe? Read more.. (May 2013)

Belgian Diversity Campaign a Step in the Right Direction
In 2002, Charles Anders, published 'The Lazy Crossdresser.' It’s a bible for those who want to cut corners when getting dolled up. However, the concept is one I've struggled with for the best part of my last ten years as Inésita. Why? Because any male-to-female cross-dresser simply cannot afford to be 'lazy' if she wants to 'pass.' Imagine my surprise then when I stepped out of the metro last week in one of Europe’s most diverse cultural melting pots that is Brussels and am struck by a campaign poster in which two of the happiest-looking cross-dressers smile down at me! Read more.. (Nov. 2012)

I ♥ Being A Girl

‘Inspirations’ is a collection of short stories authored by girls and young women intent on challenging stereotypes and achieving their goals. Published earlier in 2012 as an e-book by the International Planned Parenthood Federation (IPPF) through its ‘Girls Decide’ programme, the assemblage was the result of a project and website called ‘I ♥ Being A Girl.’ Inésita’s own story was included based on a piece she originally wrote for a postcard series called 'My World,' reflecting the struggle faced in being a transgender girl within a society where “for a boy to look like a girl is degrading.” Read more.. (Oct. 2012)

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